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Post by KimLA on Feb 16, 2011 19:24:05 GMT -5
Someone please tell me this is not going to happen! I think I'll damage my TV if we have to watch Nicki prance around like the new Boss Lady, playing the blushing bride while choosing a band and a caterer for her reception, LOL.
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Post by duets on Feb 16, 2011 19:53:02 GMT -5
Uh, the jury is still out on this one, lol. Remember when we saw Nicki on the phone planning the last party. She knows how to get the job done! Bill & Nicki have taken the upid out of stupid. RUN BARB RUN !!!!!!!!
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Post by miceelf on Feb 16, 2011 22:23:40 GMT -5
I hope that Bill has the common sense to realize that he can't be all public with divorcing wife #1 to marry wife #2 and have a big blowout party -- that would not be beneficial to his political career or public image. Wait...did I just say "Bill" and "common sense" in the same sentence? Never mind.
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Post by samantha on Feb 17, 2011 18:58:31 GMT -5
I hope that Bill has the common sense to realize that he can't be all public with divorcing wife #1 to marry wife #2 and have a big blowout party -- that would not be beneficial to his political career or public image. Wait...did I just say "Bill" and "common sense" in the same sentence? Never mind. You make a good point there - Bill can't divorce Barb without it being a big deal and all public. The newspapers will have a field day with it - and then he marries his "other wife". Again, another example of the writers not thinking before they put this story line in place.
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Post by BigLoveRocks! on Feb 17, 2011 19:05:13 GMT -5
I hope that Bill has the common sense to realize that he can't be all public with divorcing wife #1 to marry wife #2 and have a big blowout party -- that would not be beneficial to his political career or public image. Wait...did I just say "Bill" and "common sense" in the same sentence? Never mind. You make a good point there - Bill can't divorce Barb without it being a big deal and all public. The newspapers will have a field day with it - and then he marries his "other wife". Again, another example of the writers not thinking before they put this story line in place. Agreed! And furthermore... Since Bill is now IN the public light ALL the time... How is this "adoption" going to go off without a hitch? It isn't like the adoption agent won't know who he is and that he is a polygamist who divorced one wife to marry another for the sake of the adoption itself? Isn't this bordering along the same scheme as Margie and Goran? Honestly now?
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Post by duets on Feb 17, 2011 19:23:19 GMT -5
Since Bill is now IN the public light ALL the time... How is this "adoption" going to go off without a hitch? It isn't like the adoption agent won't know who he is and that he is a polygamist who divorced one wife to marry another for the sake of the adoption itself? Isn't this bordering along the same scheme as Margie and Goran? Honestly now? Not exactly, like Margene & Goran's situation because Bill is not seeking citizenship here. Therefore, he's free to marry & divorce whomever he chooses. Plus, Nicki being the bio Mom, it could happen w/o a hitch. Barb is aware of his intentions; (if she agrees, the divorce would be a mutual agreement; rather than forced) then there wouldn't be anyone to contest the adoption. According to Utah law, (in BL), it only takes married parent's.
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Post by beckykliv on Feb 17, 2011 19:23:23 GMT -5
There's something I'm not getting right, is Barb not going to be first wife anymore? She's definetely not going to be the legal wife, but that doesn't mean anything, right?
Nicki will have her wedding day, a beautiful party, and hundreds of guests, but in the end, everything will stay the same.
The only thing that changes, imo, is that Barb won't have her special relationship with Bill anymore, but that's not new, she lost it some time ago.
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Post by duets on Feb 17, 2011 19:39:19 GMT -5
There's something I'm not getting right, is Barb not going to be first wife anymore? She's definetely not going to be the legal wife, but that doesn't mean anything, right? Nicki will have her wedding day, a beautiful party, and hundreds of guests, but in the end, everything will stay the same. The only thing that changes, imo, is that Barb won't have her special relationship with Bill anymore, but that's not new, she lost it some time ago. If a divorce happens & Barb remains in the family (physically), then she would no longer be the legal wife, she would however, remain a sister-wife, to both Nicki & Margene, as well as a plural wife to Bill, as long as Bill & Barb do a spiritual marriage. In the cluster of plural wives, normally one assumes the position of 'boss lady', this is usually the senior wife. However, if this happens & a divorce takes place, then Barb would lose her seniority among the wives. For Barb, I don't think it's about seniority, as much as it is about her feelings of detachment & sorrow. She married Bill originally & exchanged wedding vows (something she takes seriously). Bill on the other hand is simply trying to appease Nicki's concerns of CL not being safe & not having a legal father to look up to etc. Simply put, it's like Nicki barges in & says move over Barb, I'm going to be Bill's new legal wife. It's all for CL, NOT MYSELF. And we all know that isn't the whole truth,
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Post by aliensummer on Feb 17, 2011 21:56:59 GMT -5
I think that regardless of whether or not they get the divorce, Barb will always be the first wife. People don't suddenly change their role in a group so easily. Margene and Bill will still treat her the same way, and Nicki will continue to try to get Barb's status.
I agree with Duets, I think Nicki doesn't want to get divorced for more personal reasons than for the status (though I think that Barb absolutely loves the perks that come with first wife status).
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Post by miceelf on Feb 18, 2011 0:43:50 GMT -5
Still not understanding why this is so "necessary". Nikki is the bio mom, the bio dad is dead, so no one else has legal custody rights to CL. Couldn't Nikki just do a will saying that if anything happens to her, she wants Bill and Barb -- a legally married couple -- to adopt CL? Non polygamous people do that all the time -- appoint guardians for their children in case anything happens to them. Bill has a lawyer on retainer, so I'm sure he could draw up papers that would stand up in court.
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Post by withay on Feb 18, 2011 2:16:32 GMT -5
Still not understanding why this is so "necessary". Nikki is the bio mom, the bio dad is dead, so no one else has legal custody rights to CL. Couldn't Nikki just do a will saying that if anything happens to her, she wants Bill and Barb -- a legally married couple -- to adopt CL? Non polygamous people do that all the time -- appoint guardians for their children in case anything happens to them. Bill has a lawyer on retainer, so I'm sure he could draw up papers that would stand up in court. I think that Nicki is afraid that some of the Walker clan would try to get custody of CaraLynn based on them being related biologically to her. Especially since the Walkers are so obsessed with their "pure" bloodline. She is just trying to make sure CaraLynn is safe. Though I am sure that being the legal wife is the icing on the cake for her!
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Post by albertaleon on Feb 18, 2011 10:41:08 GMT -5
I hope Bill doesn't marry Nicki legally. Honestly, I think with Nicki as the legal wife The Henricksons will implode. Nicki's personality just cannot hold the responsibility of being legal wife. The Henricksons with Barb as legal wife are on shaky ground. Nicki as legal wife would cause an earthquake! I can't imagine Barb or Margene feeling secure with Nicki as legal wife if something were to happen to Bill.
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Post by KimLA on Feb 18, 2011 17:49:05 GMT -5
I completely agree. Nicki simply doesn't have the kind of personality that is necessary to be in that position. In this situation, the good of the family has to come first. There is the well-being of many to consider when there are so many family members.
The reason things have worked out relatively well so far is that Barb has looked past so many of her own personal wants and needs to insure that everyone else's have been met. That takes a level of maturity and selflessness that Nicki just doesn't possess.
Let's be honest. If Nicki wasn't selfish would this whole divorce for adoption thing even be happening? She is CL only legal guardian now, all she has to do is give custody of her to Bill and Barb by letting them adopt her. They could add to their wills that if something were to happen to them, Nicki would then be CL legal guardian again. It would not change who CL lives with or who she is raised by, just a legal document in case one of the nutty Walker's tried to take custody of her. The four of them consider themselves married to each other, and they consider all of the children their children. Technically since Nicki is married to Bill, Barb, and Margie isn't CL their daughter too? Spiritually speaking, I mean. And what is all this confusion and worry about CL not having a priesthood holder about? Ok, her father is dead-but isn't Bill her stepfather- or doesn't that count?
Sorry- I'm rambling! My point is there are other options in the situation, and if Nicki weren't so selfish she would stop and realize that asking Barb to divorce Bill is completely unfair after everything else Barb has done for all of them. She has given up so much, and her marriage is one of the only things she has left. I think if Nicki truly cared about her feelings, she would find another way.
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Post by southernsong on Feb 19, 2011 8:39:49 GMT -5
I have never heard of a divorce happening overnight. These things usually take months. With any luck, the writers will actually draw it out long enough for Bill and Barb to realize that giving Nicki this kind of power is a bad idea. Of course, with the current writers, they will probably have the divorce be as easy as going to city hall and signing papers.
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Post by withay on Feb 19, 2011 10:21:59 GMT -5
I have never heard of a divorce happening overnight. These things usually take months. With any luck, the writers will actually draw it out long enough for Bill and Barb to realize that giving Nicki this kind of power is a bad idea. Of course, with the current writers, they will probably have the divorce be as easy as going to city hall and signing papers. Depending on the state, an uncontested divorce with no property negotiations can be done very quickly. But I agree that is probably not the case in Utah because they consider themselves so "family oriented". And things never take the real life length of time in TV land.
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