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Post by gypzymom on Feb 15, 2010 18:35:05 GMT -5
Okay, I know that Lura is being portrayed as a snaky mean wench and has proven to be so in previous situations..... HOWEVER.....Consider this. Folks have posted about her "sneaking around" following Alby, and eavesdropping, and talking to Dale's wife and all. How would we be reacting if Alby (read ANY man) were cheating on his wife with another WOMAN. These would be understandable reactions and ways to confirm, or disprove her suspicions, right? Considering that these men met at a flipping rest stop and were intimate right away, excuse me, doubt it was a first for either! = disease = massive betrayal = wife has a RIGHT to know! Hate to be in her corner folks, but assuming all she did was inform the wife (She only alluded to a problem to Bill) then I say she did the absolute right thing. And frankly considering her situation, she did so a great personal risk. All this also assuming that she didn't stage that suicide. Those pioneer women are a sturdy crew ya know!  |
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Post by bridget on Feb 15, 2010 19:19:32 GMT -5
I think her going to Bill was just fine. I also think confronting Albie about it and refusing to have sex etc would be justified. Talking to Dale directly would probably be fine too. I think approaching someone *elses* wife and trying to ruin his life crosses the line.
Admittedly I am poly and have an open line of communication with my husband, but I would never do that to someone. Make decisions for yourself, not someone else. Nobody has the right to ruin someone elses life on purpose even if you've been betrayed.
Maybe if she had found out she had a disease, talked to Ably and Dale and Dale refused to deal with it himself she would be justified talking to his wife, but that's a long way from what happened.
Alby had an affair and was wrong. He got busted and Dale did need to step down from his position (though not because he was gay, because it was an inappropriate relationship given the situation). But, going to the wife was simply over the line.
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Post by marigoldmama on Feb 15, 2010 19:43:49 GMT -5
I think it was kinda neat. You know, when you cheat, you gotta expect that your whole life can explode in your face. Those are the chances that you take. Lura mighta been a bit over the top in her reaction but Alby asked for it. |
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Post by JJ77 on Feb 15, 2010 22:03:08 GMT -5
Ok, I just don't get this way of thinking. I know a lot of people have a similar mind set... which is why the spouse if often "the last to know" Nobody wants to be the one to "tell" but why should an innocent spouse NOT be made aware? Ignorance is not bliss.
Obviousy if so many people had "caught wind of it" then she had taken many steps even before she went to Bill.
I do agree though that she should have confronted Alby directly... and Dale. I just dont follow the thinking that she shouldnt have gone to Dale's wife.
I dont know if her intention was vengeance or simply being more comfortable relating to another woman or wife. Maybe she didnt have the courage or strength to confront alby, so thought she would pass the buck and have th eother wife confront her husband?
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Post by JJ77 on Feb 15, 2010 22:04:28 GMT -5
BTW, i would have loved to be privy to THAT conversation!
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Post by BigLoveRocks! on Feb 15, 2010 22:06:38 GMT -5
I suspect Lura was hoping Alby would never find out that she knew about it... She just was going to take action to split them up on her own so she wouldn't be out of harmony with "father".
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Post by albertaleon on Feb 15, 2010 22:43:54 GMT -5
Bridget, Did I read correctly that you are a polygamist? Your wrote " Admittedly I am poly and have an open line of communication with my husband."
If this means that you are a polygamist I would really like to read your opinions of Big Love. I would think that you would have vast insights. If you are a polygamist is it with the Morman Church. In other words, living the principal like is being portrayed on Big Love?
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Post by albertaleon on Feb 15, 2010 22:50:52 GMT -5
I feel bad for Dale. He stated how he had struggled with his homosexuality all of his life. He even mentioned electro shock therapy. I would think Dale's wife would have been aware of her husband's past and his struggle with being a homosexual. If that is the case I don't think that Dale's wife would have come down hard on him.
Laura was not right in my opinion because Laura has shown herself in the past to be cruel and manipulative. Given Laura's past actions I think that she went to Dale's wife with the intentions to do harm.
We do not know if Laura's actions caused Dale to kill himself. Dale seemed very upset after talking to Bill.
We do know that Dale's death is going to have an adverse impact on Alby. I think that Alby will get very angry at Laura if he finds out that Laura went to Dale's wife. Alby will probably blame Dale's death on Laura.
This is the first time that I have felt bad for Alby. I do feel bad for Alby because this is the first time that he has seemed happy.
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Post by BigLoveRocks! on Feb 15, 2010 22:52:41 GMT -5
Bridget, Did I read correctly that you are a polygamist? Your wrote " Admittedly I am poly and have an open line of communication with my husband." If this means that you are a polygamist I would really like to read your opinions of Big Love. I would think that you would have vast insights. If you are a polygamist is it with the Morman Church. In other words, living the principal like is being portrayed on Big Love? Bridgit did start a thread in the introductions forum giving us some background on her poly life. You might want to check it out, she sounds like a very interesting person.  |
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Post by albertaleon on Feb 15, 2010 23:05:29 GMT -5
Thanks Big Love Rocks. I will look on the intro forum.
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Post by kambria on Feb 16, 2010 3:47:16 GMT -5
I suspect Lura was hoping Alby would never find out that she knew about it... She just was going to take action to split them up on her own so she wouldn't be out of harmony with "father". That seemed to be Lura's intentions. She was too afraid of falling from Alby's good graces to confront him herself, so she decided to take the necessary steps to force Dale to leave Alby alone. This was a passive-aggressive way of handling things with her husband but an aggressive way of making things hotter in Dale's kitchen! |
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Post by jblovessharks on Feb 16, 2010 9:47:51 GMT -5
so is it Lura or Laura?
my take on her going to dale's family is she was doing it for herself (in getting dale and alby to break up in whatever manner that would come). The way the mother was like 'can i help you?' and Lura was like 'yes... yes you can' was to me like she was there for herself and not particularly any divine mission to help alby break from something that is seen in a negative light in their faith/family
and maybe she expected bill to do something more drastic when she confronted him, but since bills talk with dale didn't immediately end alby/dale (that we know of, as i think we're supposed to assume he killed himself after being confronted by his wife) then she went that next step cause she was impatient
then again, for all we know - dale did kill himself after talking with bill and lura going to the wife could be either unnecessary fuel to the fire now, or she could be there for something else? OR she could have killed Dale and went there with the intention of maybe spilling the beans of dale/alby but not because she wants the wife to get to dale (cause at that point its too late)
btw, i think that kid they cast was a bit too over-acting... his eyebrows were near his hairline when lura said she could be helped by the mother (and it was an expression not his face... he was cute tho)
also, i absolutely love the actress who plays Lura from her stint as Amber on House where she was nicknamed a Cutthrought B**** (or CTB) so i do hope they have her in future story lines and don't just toss this whole thing to the wind like so much else!
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Post by jblovessharks on Feb 16, 2010 9:49:29 GMT -5
also! what about dale's cell phone??? you think alby will have the good sense to take it and either get rid of it or clean his message off? I mean, if not the wife or someone is bound to get their hands on it and hear Alby's confession!
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Post by miceelf on Feb 16, 2010 9:54:11 GMT -5
According to Wikipedia, it's Lura. And according to HBO, it's: Adaleen JoDean Sarah (with an h) Nicki Cara Lynn Tancy (or Teenie) Ana Rhonda Henrickson (I thought there was a d in it) This site is kind of cool, gives some basic character and actor bios: www.hbo.com/big-love/cast-and-crew# |
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Post by BigLoveRocks! on Feb 16, 2010 15:21:13 GMT -5
Lura seemed really calm and at peace when she arrived to Dale's house...
I know I'm not popular in this thought process but I still think she had something to do with Dale's death. I can see Lura as a person who would really know how to verbally push someone over the edge and convince them that killing themselves was the only way out. She has a truly evil streak in her.
All through the episode she looked troubled, like she'd been crying, even approaching Bill she couldn't even spit out what the truth was she could only insinuate it...
But at Dale's... It was all over... She was calm, peaceful... A little sweaty but as if she knew it was all over.
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